In one of the more recent episodes of Malcolm Gladwell’s Revisionist History, “The Tortoise and the Hare”, Gladwell proposes an idea called a “mirrortocracy” (as opposed to a meritocracy), implying that employers hire those whom they see themselves in. It’s no secret that it takes more to land a job than just looking good on paper, but you may need to think about having a little psychology 101 up your sleeve. For most of the interview, your employer holds the mirror up to you; to learn about who you are and what you know. Isn’t it fitting, then, that when asked if you have any questions for them that you hold up the mirror in return? It turns out that the easiest way to be brilliant in an interview is to reflect the brilliance of the interviewer back at them.
Here’s how to nail the most important, yet often overlooked, question:
“Do you have any questions for me?”
1. Remind Them of When They Were You
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There is always a trigger event. That’s what it’s called. “The Trigger Event.” The thing that makes you fly completely off the handle. The trigger event could be a plethora of different things. It may be that you’re late for school drop off and your kid can’t find their shoes. It could be siblings fighting over who gets the “good spoon.” Perhaps it’s someone’s nonstop whining about how hungry they are while the baby is crying and you’re trying to just get the spaghetti made. Or maybe it’s just some dirty socks on the floor. Whatever the occurrence, whatever the size — you. are. pissed.
Moms. We are warm, nurturing, accepting and generous human beings. But we are also full of rage. I’m not talking about bad days. About bad weeks even. Or about phases of children’s development that we haven’t yet figured out how to manage. I’m talking about those of us who are pissed off on the regular. Of course, it’s not all of us; there are plenty of mothers with patient, rational brains running the show.
But right around every corner of calm, there is a red-faced mother on the verge of an explosion.
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The other day my mom was like, “Riding has been good for you,” which is her way of saying, “You’re less of a B lately.”
She’s right. I’m 36, and since quitting gymnastics at age sixteen, I’ve pursued various joyless forms of wellness. I muddled through my 20s with hobbies like facials, shopping, wine, bad decisions, bartending, worse decisions, every fitness trend in the book, and even more mind-bogglingly bad decisions. Somehow, I never turned into a better person.
Until I had my daughter.
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Servings: 4 | Prep Time: 10-15 minutes | Ingredients: 5
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Acai, Goji, Maca, Spirulina, Moringa, Camu Camu…the list keeps growing of foods we’ve never heard of that we’re told we must eat to be healthy. Where did these come from? Are these foods actually super? Do they have superpowers to reduce my crow’s feet, because I’ll Amazon subscription that shit. right. now.
These superfoods are trending big time and not just on Twitter. Every juice bar and froyo joint has acai plastered all over its menu. But what makes superfoods worthy of the SUPER title? Health experts define superfoods as a food that is highly nutrient dense. Meaning, these food provides a substantial amount of nutrients in very few calories. Example, you’d have to eat like ten oranges to get the amount of vitamin C in one teaspoon of camu camu powder. So, it’s superpowered, sure.
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The scale sucks. It’s triggering. It’s uncooperative. No matter how much I eat right and exercise the scale stares back at me with the same shitty number. I do everything I’m supposed to be doing. I eat zoodles for god’s sake. But the ultimate judge-y metric - the bathroom scale - continues to represent my failure.
The ultimate goal is not to imbue the scale with any special powers. I’m not there yet. The scale still messes with my head and can prompt me into unhealthy behaviors out of spite.
I realized I needed a break from the scale when all we did was fight. I needed a few health wins that didn’t depend on weight. So, I went to my doctor, Dr. Kristen Bodine-Zeller, for advice. I point blank asked her, what numbers I could focus on instead?
She gave me a boatload.
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