Ok, a “catch” might be a touch clickbaity, but there are absolute pros and cons to this wildly popular, often magical new-ish beauty trend.
I live in a big city. Los Angeles. And I’m lucky to have an embarrassment of riches in terms of finding almost any practitioner of any kind. Not everyone has such a luxury, so it might take some digging to find someone you love and trust. And even still, once you find someone, there’s essential questions to ask, and required sleuthing to be done if you want brows that err more on the side of Brooke, as in Shields, rather than on the side of Bert, as in Ernie.
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For the most part, an interview provides a very rough estimation of two people’s skills and character, each doing their best to seem extremely compelling. Everyone in the room is working really, really hard to seem smart, kind, inspiring.
So if we know a company is putting its best foot forward, we expect they’re saying all the right things to reveal how their “culture” is what sets them apart, and how their employees are the beating heart of everything they do. But if you listen closely, truly toxic companies will reveal their worst nature even when they’re attempting to be their most positive and alluring. It’s not always obvious in the moment, but if you hear anything similar to these coded sentiments in an interview, run. Fast.
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First of all, I can almost guarantee that I’m ruining my child as I type this, so please know that I’m not an expert in anything. Truly. I haven’t even officially logged my required 10,000 hours of parenting to become Malcom Gladwell-certified.
So if I’m not an expert, why write this? Good question. And here’s the answer: Something I am slowly but steadily becoming an expert on, is myself. My reactions, my triggers, my stunningly cavernous gaps in my ability to connect, my lack of empathy, and my sad truth that most of my basic emotional needs were not met as a child. And through that painful process, I have stumbled on some universal truths around what human beings need in order to feel safe and seen and alive. And by “stumbled on” I mean “spent thousands of dollars on therapy to figure out how the fuck to be a good parent.”
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