3 Remarkable Products To Try After 40 If Your Sex Life Is Painful And Boring
The difference is huge.
Image: Tabu*
by The Candidly Team
Sex can change after 40. And while the reasons aren’t the same for everyone, we do know a few things:
The upheaval to our hormones can determine everything from if we feel like having sex to what we feel when having sex.
After menopause, pain during sex can be a regular occurrence for anywhere between 17% and 45% of women.
Life is often peak exhausting in midlife, our plates so full, that finding the time and energy to have sex can present many a roadblock.
Notice, we didn’t even mention the state of intimacy in our relationships, because that is a whole other subject that takes more than a 5-minute read to unravel.
But here’s the biggest problem. Our minds are connected to our bodies, and once things start to become more challenging for any reason physically, it’s very easy to fool ourselves into thinking it’s sort of the end of the line for pleasure. And that is far, far from the truth.
Like most things thrown at us in perimenopause and menopause, keeping sex great after 40 often just takes some understanding … and some adaptiveness. We’ve written about the reasons why you might be wanting sex less. We’ve written about some pretty unexpected ways to make sex better and about ways to make it less painful.
But today, we’re getting really specific. Because frankly, we’re tired of bland, blanket statements from non-experts and vapid advice from insta (cough TikTok). We want the good stuff. The exact stuff. And these three things are all very, very good stuff.
Tabu The Prim Pillow
A pillow is KEY for comfort in almost any position after 40. Why? Estrogen plummets, which of course creates dryness, but it also means pelvic floor tension, our vaginal walls are thinner and less flexible, and that trio often equates to pain. This pillow means better pelvic alignment so we can fully relax, and it helps to set up everything at the perfect angle. The difference is astonishing.
While wedge pillows often come recommended by pelvic floor physical therapists and GYNs, this particular pillow happens to be both comfy and attractive enough to leave out on the bed.
Nécessaire The Sex Gel
We've written about this countless times, and it's almost always sold out which, given its amazingly natural and comfortable feeling, does not surprise us in the least. You don't have to feel “old and decrepit” if you want to use sex gel. (Notice we never say lube). The reality is over 65% of women use it, and it's not some septuagenarian tool. Women of every age use it because it makes the whole situation feel better and more slippy and good. If you take nothing from this article but one thing, make it that sex gel is actually what every “it girl” knows is the secret to excellent, fun, painless sex.
The Original Magic Wand
A scant 18% of women can have an orgasm from intercourse!!! Do. Not. Feel. Weird. If. You. Are. One. Of. Us. Of course, there are manifold other things to try, but we are urging you from the depths of our hearts and souls to try this magic (indeed) wand. There are hundreds of thousands of glowing reviews, most of which include multiple exclamation points, to express the absolute joy women have experienced with this expertly-designed tool. There is zero weirdness or awkwardness using it even during coupled situations, and it will mean BOTH parties get to enjoy mind-altering … “results.”
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