8 Things That Thrill Us In Our 40s That Would Have Bored Us To Tears At 35
From neck dewrinklers to intimacy pillows, this list is loads of fun.
by The Candidly Team
Anyone else feel like they really could have used a cool big sister to help pave the way to their perimenopausal/menopausal years? To show us where the good neck creams are. To warn us which orthopedic shoes will make us look ancient. To remind us to sit up straight so we don’t end up from hunched over our lunches in a lone corner of the quad.
Well, that’s kind of why we’re here. As prepared as we thought we were in our 30s, we really knew nothing of what was coming. Who knew our wants and needs in our 40s could evolve so much?
And so, we decided to muster up all our oldest sister energy and share with you 8 very specific things that have made life breezier. Better. More blissful. They’ve even made us more beautiful. They’re from all categories of life, which only goes to show how effective each one had to be to make this list.
We’ll stop being cryptic now and get to the goods.
1. This Incredible Neck Dewrinkling Spray
WHAT: Beauty Pie Über Youth Neck & Chest Super Lift Serum-Spray*
Neck aging is something our grans (not to mention the great Nora Ephron) warned us all about, and yet, in our 30s everything was going smoothly, and we didn’t give it another thought. But then, in five short years, things went south. We saw lines, wrinks, sag and we worried it was too late to do anything about it. Well, my friends, we’ve found something that works. Unlike the 247 neck products we’ve tried, this one gave us results incredible enough to unveil on the internet (scary!):
Pretty wild, no? We love that it’s a spray. We love that it’s packed with collagen-boosting, anti-sagging ingredients we wrote all about HERE if you’re interested. But most of all, we just love that it works.
Price: $44
2. These "Sensible Black Pants" That Make Legs Look Gorj And Never Wrinkle
WHAT: Ruti The On The Loose Work Pants*
You’ve seen these pants served to you by the influencers of TikTok and surely you’re thinking we too are being paid to write about them. But nope, this isn’t spon-con. Yes, one pair of said pants was sent to one of our editors. But the rest of us just went out and bought them ourselves because they are, and listen closely, not like any other pants in this world. They weigh … nothing. They look chic. They have stretch that withstands 14-hour plane rides and a shape that makes our legs look like sticks. We wear them to work and to dinner and to speed-clean the house, and they’re the only pants we need to pack on a weeks-long vacation. Proof HERE. We would have written about them for their comfort alone, but weirdly they might be the most flattering pants we own.
Price: $200
3. This Pelvic Floor Pillow That Makes Sex 3x Better
WHAT: Tabu The Prim*
Sex can become more painful and less pleasurable as we hit our 40s. This is one of those solution-oriented ideas that is so simple and so brilliantly problem-solving that we can’t believe we didn’t think of it ourselves. What is it? A carefully crafted wedge pillow designed to alleviate pain and maximize pleasure during sex. Apparently physical therapists, pelvic floor specialists, and GYNs have been recommending these, and somehow, we’re just finding out. This one is so subtle and minimalist, so it doesn’t feel unsexy and orthopedic, but it’s also not so contraptiony that we blush when we see it out at 10am.
Price: $150
4. These Cloudlike Sneaks That Feel Orthopedic
WHAT: Toms TRVL Lite Wedge Sneaker*
Here’s something new since we turned 40. We will not do foot pain. No, no, no. We love an orthopedic-feeling white sneak that looks very clean and cool and sleek. This one has incredible support but is light as air, so we can walk all day as if we’re on clouds.
Price: $180
5. This Balm That Makes Our Strawlike Hair Smooth And Shiny WITHOUT Blow-Drying
WHAT: Hairstory Hair Balm*
We used to be so patient, so willing to spend our precious time under a blowdryer, head-sweating into a round brush, but at some point, it all became too much. With our patience gone and our hair heat-damaged, we found this ONE single product that we can just scrunch through our wet hair, letting it air dry and coming out with shiny, smooth, defrizzed,, younger, healthier-looking hair. It’s the stuff of witches, and we won’t be without it.
Price: $37
6. This Posture Correcting Bra That Gets Rid Of Your Dowager's Hump
WHAT: Forme Science Power Bra®*
We didn’t realize how much poor posture ages us, until we well … got older. Even worse, after 40, it gets even harder to get rid of that hunched over hump, which is why having something lazy and wearable to correct our posture in a supportive, strengthening, way that takes zero of our own effort is the kind of solution we so deeply desire.
Price: $178
7. This Lip Liner That Makes Our Ever-thinning Lips Look Plumper Without Filler
WHAT: Merit Signature Lip Liner*
Our lips, we’re sad to say, have started their shriveling journey, and this liner has done nothing short of bring them back to lustrous life. It is the most natural liner in existence. It’s turned the most die-hard “no-makeup” makeup lovers among us into whole-hearted liner people. The creamy formula and color “bespoke” makes us look like we got filler except not in that fake, fillery way. Here’s a photo for reference. Liner is paired with our fave nude gloss.
Price: $24
8. These Biodegradable Wipes That Clean Every Surface in Our House in Seconds
WHAT: Biom All Purpose Wipes*
No one tells you when you’re 14 how much time you’ll spend wiping things down in your life. .This wipe is just superior. It’s non-tox, plastic-free, smells like a dream, and works on ALL surfaces, so we use it with abandon. And it leaves things squeaky clean instead of sticky with residue. Plus, you can stick them in this sweet, little container* that actually looks chic on the counter.
Price: $18 for 3-pack
At The Candidly, we try a lot of stuff so you don’t have to. We only recommend things we truly love, and that we think you’ll love, too. All products are chosen independently by our creative team, and all details reflect the price and availability of products at the time of publication. If you buy something we link to, The Candidly may earn a commission.
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